As working mothers there just never seems to be enough hours in the day to get it all done. Try out these realistic hacks to bring the balance back into your life:
As working mothers there just never seems to be enough hours in the day to get it all done. Try out these realistic hacks to bring the balance back into your life:
We all know that functioning on too little sleep can lead to irritability, inefficiency and ultimately, health issues. If you do nothing else, ensure you’re getting the right amount of sleep. Schedule bedtime like any other meeting (and ensure the kids do the same!). Try ten minutes reading to help you to switch off and relax.
Most jobs will naturally swing from busier to quieter times but it’s important to keep a gauge on the hours that you’re putting in and the expectations for the role. Work with your employer to set up a structure that works for you both – can you work one day from home? Perhaps a limit to the number of work functions or checking of emails in the evening. Set up parameters that work and stick to them.
As working mothers, we often overcompensate and take on far too many of the school or sport voluntary roles. Learn to pick and choose and don’t be afraid to push back. It’s also good to involve the kids (if old enough) and work together – for example if there are 4 events coming up but time off for all is impossible, explain to your child that you can’t attend all 4 and ask which 2 would they most like you to come to. This also works well for the challenge of school holidays, ask – would they prefer you to come to that particular event or spend a day together in the holidays.
Set yourself up for success by setting realistic to-do lists and schedules. You can always add more if you get the time but start by keeping it real.
While it sounds good in theory it really doesn’t work. Give your attention to one thing at a time and do it well. If you’re trying to finish that report, don’t be planning dinner at the same time. This will help to avoid that frazzled feeling.
We can’t do everything to perfection and letting go of that internal expectation will relieve a mountain of stress. Sometimes sandwiches for dinner and unironed school uniforms will just have to do.
We’ve all heard ourselves say “Don’t worry, I’ll do it” and regretting it later. By all means help them with advice and support but don’t take it over. Build this responsibility in your kids as well – even if you have to nag occasionally!
Make sure you spend time doing things you love and spending time with those whose time you treasure. Everyone needs to release and take time out and find that release. Make the effort to see a show, movie or visit that new restaurant. Enjoy!